Use one hand to grip the shaft firmly. Use the other hand’s palm or fingers to rub the head in small circles. Alternate between both hands for a sensation that mimics oral or vaginal sex.
As you stroke upward, twist your wrist slightly. At the top, use your thumb to circle the frenulum (the sensitive V-shape on the underside). Many men report this area as their “spot.” Lovers and Sex Guide - 22 - Expert Guide to Ha...
Ask, “Harder or softer?” and “Faster or slower?” Pressure preferences vary wildly. For Partners with a Vulva: Precision Over Pressure The clitoris is the only human organ devoted solely to pleasure—but it’s often treated like an invisible button. In reality, it’s a wishbone-shaped structure extending internally. Use one hand to grip the shaft firmly
Instead of direct, pinpoint pressure (which can feel too intense for many), use the flat of your palm over the entire pubic mound. Ask your partner to grind against your hand. This distributes sensation and builds deep, rolling arousal. As you stroke upward, twist your wrist slightly
Insert one or two fingers palm-up. Make a gentle “come here” motion against the front wall of the vagina (about 1–2 inches in). Simultaneously, use your thumb or the heel of your hand to stroke the external clitoris.
Use two fingers to trace a figure eight around the clitoral glans and the vaginal opening. This engages both the clitoral legs (crura) and the vestibular bulbs.